Yesterday, I thought I observed an employee misrepresenting a situation. It was a small matter that made little difference to the overall outcome.  

In earlier years, I would have challenged his statement and encouraged him to fess up.

In my senior years of managing and mentoring, I’ve learned to keep my trap shut.

First off, I may have it wrong. For decades, I never considered that possibility. But as my mother used to say, “the proof is in the pudding,” and I’ve found my opinions and memories clouded by preconceived notions. More than once, when all the facts are in, I’ve had to apologize for correcting someone who was correct to begin with.

More importantly, most people of substance have the ability to self-correct. They don’t need someone like me to point out every error of omission or colorful overstatement. Their self-talk will put them on the right track.

Besides, all of us listen better to what we tell ourselves than what others say to us. Right?

Author: Don Kuhl

Don Kuhl is founder of The Change Companies® and Train for Change Inc.® He has authored hundreds of Journals that have assisted over 10 million people in making positive life changes. While Don was aging (think of a side of beef at a fine restaurant), he managed motel properties, started several sports publications, worked in college and health care administrations and started about a dozen corporations. Some of them failed miserably, a few flourished.