Shower Caps

For the past few months, whenever I was leaving for a trip, my sister would text me and ask me to please bring the shower caps from the hotels. After several trips, bringing home a cap or two and then reminding myself to give it to her when I would see her, I thought it would be much more efficient to buy an entire bag from Amazon. It was $9.99 for 100 shower caps, and I gave them to her in a big bag a few weekends ago. “Thanks!” she said. But she didn’t sound overly excited. I saw her last weekend and asked how they were working out. “Great!” she replied. But she didn’t sound too enthusiastic. 

Today, I check into a hotel and see a shower cap in a tiny box. As I unpack my toiletries, I realize that it probably wasn’t ever about the shower caps themselves. In buying the giant bag of 100 caps, I had missed the point. She certainly could have bought her own giant bag from Amazon. The shower cap was about doing a small thing that connected us even when we were apart. It was symbolic – a tiny act of love to show I was thinking about her.

I tuck the shower cap from the hotel into my suitcase. I’m going to bring it home for her tomorrow.

Author: Alyssa Forcehimes, PhD

An expert in behavior change, substance use disorders and empathic communication, Dr. Alyssa Forcehimes serves as President of The Change Companies® and Train for Change Inc.® She lives in Arizona with her husband and two daughters.