Wishing You Well

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Every week, moments after my blog goes out Thursday morning, my inbox fills with auto-replies from people who are out of the office. 

I’m anticipating that on this day, when most of us have a day off to be with family and loved ones, I will receive many more out-of-office replies than normal.

Most Thursday mornings, I sit at my desk in the early morning hours with a fresh cup of coffee and go on autopilot, clicking select-delete, select-delete one by one until all the out-of-office responses are deleted from my inbox. It’s a neutral and mindless task that takes 10 minutes, and I’m usually not paying too much attention at all. 

Other times, if I’m having a hard week, I read people’s out-of-office messages and secretly wish I, too, was out of office: Select… “Lucky you, on vacation.” …delete. Select… “I’m jealous of you, off doing something fun.” …delete. Select… “Oh, you’re out of the country with limited access to email? No fair.” …delete. I often notice when I approach the task this way, I’m noticeably grumpier than how I felt 10 minutes earlier.  

But today, I’m going to do something different. As I select each out-of-office email, I’m going to send a silent good wish to you and use this time as an uplifting experience (hopefully for both of us).

I may not know you personally, but there are two things I do know – you are special, as we all are, and you have struggles, as we all do. And so from me to you, on this day of thanks, I hope you feel a little bit of kindness being sent your way as I click select and silently wish you well.

Happy Thanksgiving.

Author: Alyssa Forcehimes, PhD

An expert in behavior change, substance use disorders and empathic communication, Dr. Alyssa Forcehimes serves as President of The Change Companies® and Train for Change Inc.® She lives in Arizona with her husband and two daughters.